Wednesday, March 27, 2024

19. Questions to Ask a Guy.


I found an idea from a Pinterest post by and I thought why not do it. It is something about myself, and hopefully you share your answers with me. It's targeted towards men, and I think it's important to highlight mental health in the male population as it's gone unspoken since the beginning of times. I know, I might get backlash for several reasons, but as a man, I think I should stand by this; and as an advocate for mental health as a whole. 

Let's do this!

1. What's a cause that you're passionate about?
    Big Brothers Big Sisters. I have been a Big for a few years now and the experience has been more than I expected to get. I speak of it every time I can because there is a need for male volunteers, especially Latino men, that would be amazing mentors for children.

2. How do you define success in your career?
    Being recognized by my peers, being able to help and make a difference within my scope.

3. What's something you feel people misunderstand about you?
    Maybe that I don't care about things... I usually don't say much about the volunteering I've done because that's something I don't think I should be recognized for, so I keep it to myself. Well, that was until a few blog posts ago where I go all in lol click this link to check it out!

4. How do you approach life's challenges?
    Honestly it depends on the kind of challenge. I want to say I have the skills now to utilize whenever they show up so I can tackle them in a healthy way; however, there are times when I get overwhelmed/stressed out because I do not have control over them. 
But usually, I look at the facts, the pros and cons, the positive side, and I consider the worst case scenario so I can 'cope ahead'. Then take it one day at a time.

5. What's a skill you'd like to master?
    Patience. I admit that sometimes I expect people to be on the same page as me, claiming 'common sense'. This used to get me in trouble before, but I think I have acquired some skills to help me communicate better.  

6. What's the most important thing in a relationship for you?
    Communication is key, I believe, in every type of relationship. We do not want to get lost in translation, assume, or fill in the blanks. If there's something you are unsure about, ask the person and clear it up; it's most likely a misunderstanding.

7. How do you deal with change?
    I think I am a master a change :) after all, I migrated to a country where I knew nothing of the culture and the language, in the middle of my teenage years, still trying to find myself, and dealing with usual Life issues. I dealt with them the best way I knew at the moment, and as an adult (and after therapy) I have come to terms with the consequences and reshape the story. Now I roll with the punches, but I still ask many questions, so I know where I stand.

8. What does trust mean to you in a relationship?
    It means not having to question a person's intentions, and knowing they will have my back at all times, especially when I'm not around.

9. What's something that's recently made you happy or excited?
    Being reminded I occupy a spot in my cousins life, even if it's just for a game night. Family bonds are important to me, and it's nice to know I always get the call.

10. If you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be?
    Hang in there; you'll get through this.

11. What life experience has shaped your views the most?
    The power of words. The use of the N word, taking the negative connotation of it and people using it within their own group, owning and taking the power away. When I was put in the position where FAGGOT was thrown around like an everyday word, I felt empowered and a sense of pride. Yet, I felt protective of it. It doesn't belong to others outside of my community. That was eye-opening.

12. What's something you've always dreamed of doing but haven't yet?
    Publishing my own book. Halfway there, and it will happen this time around.

14. How do you approach growth and self-improvement?
    I'm always willing to learn and open to feedback.

15. What's an unpopular opinion you have?
    ARTPOP album by Lady Gaga is underrated. 
    Beyonce is overrated.

16. What's a habit you're currently trying to change or develop?
    Being on time.

17. How do you find peace or calm in your life?
    Listening to music. Reading a book. Anything that takes me away from Reality.

19. What's a moment in your life that made you feel incredibly proud?
    Winning Big of the Year 2020. Knowing that my Little and his mom think of me as a good influence and that they took the time to nominate me, it meant a lot to me.

20. How do you deal with loneliness or isolation?
    I write. It's okay to be alone with your thoughts. It's okay to feel lonely. We just can't dwell on it.

21. What's a life lesson you wish you had learned earlier?
    It's empowering to embrace the faggot within me.

22. What's an experience that has made you stronger?
    Reliving the times I was called derogatory names and taking the power away from them.

23. How you handle situations out of your control?
    I just have to look at the facts, the pros and cons, and try to predict the punches.

24. What's a passion or hobby that you spend a lot of time on?
    I say writing and reading. I should spend more time doing that, but if I focus on it, that's what I usually do.

25. What's a fear you'd conquered, and how did you do it?
    Being alone with myself and my thoughts. I had lots of therapy and a few hard decisions I had to make in order to know more about myself.

26. How do you express love or affection?
    Physical touch. Hugs. I'm a hugger. 

27. What's a significant risk you've taken in your life?
    Moving to this country.

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